People cannot grasp it. They are different. You are different and you walk differently. They have nothing more to say to each other.
They, who were there to rule the world, are gone. They were never there to rule the world, but they wanted to. They could not. Why not?
Because humans can’t. Humans aren’t meant to rule the world, but to do things. What things?
Lots. Lots of things, some of them nice. They’re supposed to learn a lot. Do a lot. Be what they are. They’re lovers.
So everything is said. What?
What you are – humans.
You’re lovers.
Lovers can do a lot. Are a lot. Can do everything they need. Also walk. Can walk if they want. So one is clear.
I can go. Can do what I want. Everything is done when I want it.
Quite simply. No, not simply. People think.
They think and cannot do what they want. It’s all hard. Not just hard, but difficult to live. You think and think and think. There is constant traffic on the upper floor.
What is it that is constantly occupying me?
They are thoughts. Thoughts that I don’t know where they come from. They are just there. I can’t get rid of them. They often get me down. All a problem. Then again, everything is fine. Confusing. I don’t know why.
It’s that easy. The EGO does. Makes you think. You don’t know. Now that’s over.
No, not quite. People simply learn what it is that is constantly bothering them. They are no longer so easily influenced. Why?
Because they know what their EGO is doing.
You want it to be different. How?
You detach yourself from the thoughts. Then life begins to be new. No, not so fast. It takes time, but it begins to be new.
Being new means what?
A lot!!!
So, what, for example?
That’s easy to explain. You don’t have so much traffic in your head anymore. If that’s no longer the case, then a lot is different. You don’t think so much anymore. You’re not distracted so often.
Now it’s much clearer. You let yourself be distracted. That caused problems that you wouldn’t have had if you hadn’t let yourself be distracted.
Example:
“I’m not good. I can’t do much. I don’t know what I want at all. I want a lot, but how do I get it?”
Thoughts that you have? Yes, you have them.
Who doesn’t know them? Hardly anyone.
So, what now?
You learn. You learn what it’s like not to have these thoughts anymore. It’s quite simple. You just place the center of your right hand on the point between your eyebrows and they stop. No, they slow down, the thoughts that keep coming. Does that mean, “You can stop them?”
No, not that, but you control your thoughts. What? How?
Haven’t I always controlled them? No, never!!! What? That’s not true! I’ll show you. I control them, no question. Thank God no one can see that it’s not true. It’s a joke. People don’t control their thoughts.
Thoughts control people much more.
Is it clear now? No, not at all. There’s still a lot to learn. Like what?
That thoughts are mostly negative. That makes it clear: “People are negative. They don’t make you feel good.”
No, quite the opposite. They are unpleasant. Insecure. Also combative. You no longer like people. You are also aggressive towards them. You no longer want them either. Conflicts are the order of the day. You sit opposite each other. Look each other in the eye. No, you look away. You are insecure and aggressive. You can’t talk to each other. But you want to talk. It doesn’t work. You don’t look at each other. You want to, but you can’t.
It’s like a spell. You don’t want to and can’t. You want to talk. But everything leads to a scandal. You don’t talk to each other for a long time. You are angry with each other. You don’t want to anymore.
What can I do? Nothing. Nothing helps. He or she doesn’t want to. No, not that, but you think that’s the case. So nothing works. You don’t want to because you think you’ll fall behind if you do. You’re not allowed to. It’s a sign of weakness when you come and talk.
It’s not like that! Yes, sometimes, but not often. Is that true?
Not really, but that’s just the way it is. You can’t help it. Why not, actually?
It’s quite simple: “You think.”
“You” is who?
I don’t know. It comes up very often. It’s always there. You do. You don’t. You’re not. You can’t. You don’t want to. You haven’t done anything. You don’t understand. You weren’t wrong. You don’t want anything to happen. You worry. You have realized. You are no good. You are not loved. You have a problem.
All the “man”. No one knows who he is. The “man”.
So, who is the “man”?
I don’t know. I don’t care either way. He can’t influence me. That’s obvious. Something I don’t know can’t influence me. Not me, anyway. That would be laughable. It can’t happen to me. I don’t want it to happen.
Oh dear. But it happens all the time. Don’t you see that?
Yes, but not often. So one question?
You don’t come across “he” very often? But I often hear people talking about “he”. Don’t you? I can’t be alone in this.
Of course, that’s true, but not for me. I’m aware that “he” is a problem and I’ve done away with him.”
What? You’ve done away with him! You’ve done away with him. How did you do that?
Simple. Whenever he came up, I did something else. What?
That worked? Yes, that’s very good. I avoided a lot with that. They couldn’t mislead me anymore. I was just clear.
A “man” can’t hurt me. He doesn’t exist. He’s an invention. Of whom?
I’m not quite sure, but there is something inside me that always says, “One does. One goes. One is. One wants. One doesn’t want to. And on and on, until I no longer knew what I actually wanted.”
That’s how I felt. For a very long time. I didn’t want that anymore. Now it’s different. What?
It hardly ever happens to me anymore. I no longer hear the ‘man.’ He has become silent. What???
He has become silent. Who?
Quite simply the one who always said: “One does. One is. One can’t. One is not well advised. One shouldn’t really. One isn’t like that. One shouldn’t make mistakes. One is flawless, otherwise one is nothing. One is just not good enough. One is also too stupid. And much more.”
I just didn’t want that anymore. It always dragged me down. Made me ill-tempered.
I now think independently. What???
I think independently, what is that???
Quite simply. Thoughts come. I accept them. They are there. I take no notice of them. They are gone as quickly as they came. So what?
They had no meaning. Thoughts are just thoughts. They are nothing. They come and go. You don’t want them, but they come.
Why is that?
There is something! What is it?
THE EGO. Who is the EGO?
Quite simply, it is what makes us who we are. Not quite, but it is there. Doing what it can.
What does it do? A lot?
No, not really. It expresses us. You can think of it like this: “It’s there so that we can show ourselves. We want to show ourselves. What do we want to show?
What we are. Well, and what is that?
That’s clear.
We are lovers. People who want to love. Who want to honor. Who want to respect. Well, and what’s the point of that?
A lot, if you live it. Well, I do that. So where’s the problem?
Quite simply, you don’t do it! What???
You don’t do it.
A person who loves does not allow what is happening now. Murder and manslaughter. War. Destruction. Everything you can read about. Not “man”, but the person. You can’t say you don’t see what people do.
“Man” is real now. No thought. The people who cause all this to happen are real. They do what people shouldn’t do. They destroy people.
That’s not love. Love doesn’t destroy. Love is. Does good. Loves and does good.
Where there is love, people are not vilified. People are not insulted. People are not used. People are not hated. People are not killed. People are not robbed of their money. People are not robbed of their existence.
So do you love? Yes, I can’t help it. I have no influence over what is happening now. Yes, I could say something. Yes, I could write something. Yes, I could write a lot. But what’s the use? Nothing. Nobody reads what I write.
That’s for those who can to do. I support them. How?
I’ll have to think about that. Yes, actually not. How should I? I don’t have time. It’s all too much for me. They want a lot from me. I can’t do everything. All right. I don’t love. My family does.
Good, you love your family. Is everything good there? No, of course not. There are arguments there too. But we don’t vilify each other. We just argue. Good, and how do we do that?
We yell. We’re hard on each other. We want to get our way. Sure. There’s something we don’t like. We want it changed. What do we want changed? Yes, what we don’t like.
Who should do it?
The other one! And you? Not us. We didn’t do anything. He started it. So the argument is about the other person? Not really, but he should change. Why did the argument start? I don’t really remember. It was there. It started. It didn’t stop. Not really, but it lasted. Now you’re just not good. You can’t get along well with each other anymore. It’s also clear: “You can’t put up with all that.”
Am I someone who is infallible?
No, not that, but the fact is that I am also a human being with feelings. My feelings were hurt. I can’t put up with that. Well, that’s understandable.
But what if feelings are also thoughts? Thoughts that distract us. Thoughts that distract us particularly strongly. Thoughts that also make us angry. That also make us furious.
I feel quite different now. There is something. I don’t know what. Something seems to be happening inside me. What?
I recognize something. Whenever I think negatively, I have negative feelings. It’s as if it perpetuates itself. Then it also happens that I am very emotional. I’m beside myself. Then I think a lot. Then it carries me away. I’m just not myself anymore.
What is happening? I want to know. It is important to me to know. I want to get rid of it. Why?
Because it causes a lot of damage. I often can’t go back. It says inside me: “You’re not stupid. You can’t let her do this to you. It’s always the same. She doesn’t do what I want. It means, ”She thinks she can do anything to me.”
Oh dear! So she is not willing. That’s not good. You are always willing. No, not that, but I want someone to do what I want. Why should that be so?
Yes, just like that. I know a lot. More than some others. So it would be good if they did what I want. It’s important to me. Why is that?
I am important. People have to follow me. I am also the boss. What would happen if everyone did what they wanted? Nothing would come of it. Everything would be bad. I know what is good. I have the overview. I am also the one who has a lot of experience. Since someone who doesn’t have as much experience can’t object to me saying what should be done. I grew up that way, too. It was the same for me. Always having to do what others say. Then I rose through the ranks. People were glad to have me. I did what they wanted. Always. Even when it made me feel uncomfortable. Then it sounded in me: “Do what they say. That’s how it is. You have to make sacrifices.”
But why?
I don’t know. I just often experience it that way. Do as you’re told, and it’ll be easier for you. They’ll be more accessible then. Who?
People who have something to say. They’re the ones who call the shots. I’m just a small cog. They turn the big wheel. I want to be part of it too. So first a small cog, then the big wheel?
No, not that, but you have to participate. It’s good to participate. Then you have a chance to grow. Then, when you stand out. You have done enough for them. You are indispensable to them. Maybe not indispensable to them, but still important to them.
Is that how it is? What if you don’t always go along with it? Then I might be out on my ear. It’s better if you go along with it. The job is important. You can’t lose it. I’m scared. I have to provide for a lot of mouths. I can’t do what I want.
So, there we have it. You’re dependent. Not really, but yes. Yes, what now? Dependent or not? Yes, if that’s how you want it. I see it differently. I just do what they want so I’ll be safe. Good, you’re safe. For how long?
I can’t say. It depends on what I do. Well, what happens if you don’t do what they want?
Simple. Maybe they fire me. Well, then what?
Then it’s bad. I have to look for a new job. They don’t want me. Why?
Because I failed. Losing this job is like failing. I can’t say it any other way. It sounds like this to me: “You’re just not good enough. You can’t adapt. You’re stubborn. Not willing. You’re not needed.”
There’s a lot that comes after that. Where from? Yes, I just think that. You think? Yes, I think! You think for the others. No, I think.
But how can you know what the others think? I don’t know that, but I think that they think that way. They think like me. I’m sure of that. Otherwise it wouldn’t be possible for me to continue thinking that it is so. What is it?
It sounds in me: “You have to do something now. Everything has conspired against you. You are no longer wanted. You may really be in danger. You won’t get a job anymore. You’ll be nothing. Being nothing is terrible. You’ll just be unwanted.”
Does it sound the same or slightly different in you? Exactly! That’s how it is. I don’t want that, but it is so.
Man – can’t you see? What?
You don’t know what you are thinking. You don’t know who or what makes you think. You think and are convinced that what you think is good. You occupy yourself with thinking. Your thoughts drive you crazy. You also want to think. It’s getting worse and worse. Then you also think that you have to do what you want.
“Man” is who? Nobody you know. Man is how you are. You act like that. You don’t know who ‘man’ is and do what ‘man’ says.
Man – don’t you see? What?
That ‘man’ is nothing. He always leaves. Usually completely different than before. He’s supposed to confuse you.
What, he is supposed to confuse me? That is no longer comprehensible to you. Is that so – man?
Then imagine. There are people who don’t want anything good for you. Yes, I know that. That happens to me often. If that is the case, then I can believe that. But who is that?
I can imagine it. What do you imagine? It is they who always tell us. Who always want something from us. Who never stop wanting something from us. Yes, I know them. I don’t want them, but they are just there.
Yes, that’s how it sounds inside me too. We just have them. It’s not going to be that bad. We should get rid of them, but they’re just there. Anyway, I can’t do anything about them being there. I, for sure, can’t do anything. Big shots have to be brought in to change that. That’s how I imagine it. You also have to be aware that many people are against it. Against what?
That they leave. Why?
Because they take care of them. You have to have a lot of them so that they can stay. The ones we have so that they tell us what to do. Sometimes it’s terrible what they say, but that’s just the way it is. We let them do it. They take a lot from us. We can’t change that. We little ones don’t matter at all. We’re nothing to them. We’re just there so that they can be.
Are you actually there – human? What do you mean? Of course I’m here. You can see me. No, that’s not what I mean. Being there means: “Do you actually want something?”
Yes, of course. As much money as possible.
Is that why you’re doing all this? What I’ve been saying? Almost everything, actually. Yes, you could say that. You have to have money, otherwise you’re nothing. Can’t buy anything. You’re nobody. You don’t have a car. You can’t move around. You want to go out too. Take something with you. What do you want to take with you?
People, of course, but also other things. You want to transport things. You have a lot to do. There’s always something to transport. Why is that?
Because you’ve bought something. You have to get it from A to B. That’s difficult if you don’t have a car. Well, what if you didn’t have a car?
Then it would all be very difficult. I’d have to ask someone. Who?
Yes, another person who has a car. You have friends, don’t you? Yes, but why do you need a car? Yes, because I want things too. Why is that?
It makes you someone. Without a car, you’re almost nobody. The children will say, “We don’t have a car.” My friend’s father has a car. People will also say, “We’re poor.” “We can’t afford anything.” “Our father isn’t good. He can’t do much.” We have the wrong father. Not that, but to me it sounds like that. I never want to hear that. You can’t hear that. You have to try harder. Make more money. How?
You work more. One job isn’t enough. I have to have several. Why?
So I can buy what I want. Why do you actually want? That’s clear. You have to have something. All right, but how much do you need?
A lot would be good. I don’t know how much. But a lot would be good.
The way I see it is: “Realize that if you don’t have a lot, you’re not important.”
That’s how it is. But I want to be important.
Good. Let’s end it here. You want to be important.